Wednesday, March 23, 2011

What are you doing for Fun?

Life in the sober lane can be challenging at first.  It is not uncommon to question if life can even be fun without using.   After all, we have surrounded ourselves with people who use, or have secluded ourselves from the rest of the world so that we could be alone with our addiction. From someone who had panic attacks going into social situations without a drink, to someone who is sober and feels totally at ease nowadays, I'm here to tell you that life is actually more fun without using. Yes.  It is true. Never thought I'd say that but it is true.  There was a learning curve for me. I had to learn how to have fun.  I had to learn to choose good friends who wanted to stay sober and simply have fun and enjoy life on life's terms. I did that by asking other recovering alcoholics to socialize with me.  Together we learned a new way to communicate in the world. The most important thing I have learned along these lines, is that I have had to be my own social director. In other words, I couldn't rely on others to come up with fun ideas.  I create my own fun.  It works if you work it!
Just sayin' Lila

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

4 Ingredients to a Happy Life

I have a tendency to make life harder than it needs to be at times.  Here are the four ingredients that I try to incorporate into my life on a daily basis to feel happy.

Fun
Am I having fun today?  If not, I need to be creative and think of things that are fun to do.

Worthwhile
Am I doing things that are worthy?  If I am not, I need to do so.

Love
Am I feeling loved today? If I put genuine love out there, I'll get love back. Remember there's all kinds of ways to love and show kindness to others.

Freedom
Do I feel free to make choices today?  Do I feel free from my addictions?  If not, I need to take steps to do so.

Just sayin'  Lila

Friday, March 11, 2011

A Program of Action

Read what one of our followers has to say about early sobriety....

http://cascratchgolfer.blogspot.com/

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Good Luck


Luck is 90% preparation

What are you doing to prepare for your good luck in sobriety?

Just sayin'  Lila

Friday, March 4, 2011

Looking for the Commonality

It is not unusual when you are new to recovery to go to meetings and concentrate on how you are different than the others attending the meeting.  This can lead to a dangerous place in your recovery. Next time you find yourself doing that... try this... Switch your thinking pattern to ponder about what things you have in common with the people speaking at the meeting...Yeah it sounds  simple...but it works... You will leave the meeting feeling like you belong and that you are in the right spot.
Just sayin'
Lila

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Is the Door to Your Addiction Completely Shut?

     Here's a question that I'd like you to ask yourself?  Have you totally shut the door to your addiction?  If the door is not totally shut, we addicts will obsess about that crack in the door and think about the drugs and/or alcohol on the other side until we have talked ourselves into going through the open door and relapsing. However, if we know the door is totally shut, then it is almost a relief.. we can move on. We don't have to obsess, we can actually live this life that has been given to us without the ball and chain of obsessive addictive thinking attached .  We only have to conquer today, or possibly this hour or even this minute. What has helped this alcoholic stay sober has been to actually visualize the door being totally shut and locked to my addiction.  There is no way I can open that door, so why sit and think about it? The door is shut tight and does not open.  Knowing that, I visualize myself turning my back to the locked door and walking away from it and seeing the freedom that this new life of sobriety has to offer me.
   So, here's the question only you can answer, "Is the door to your addiction totally shut?"
Just sayin'
Lila